Okay, so I have been stewing on this for awhile and after bouncing it off a few people, I am ready to bring it to you....
Given our age of 'Reality'-driven programming and what
feels like an increase in bullying behavior in our children, is it possible that our behavior is at fault?
Hear me out!
Take shows that include 'Survivor', 'Big Brother', 'The Bachelor', 'Hell's Kitchen', 'Jersey Shore', 'American Idol', 'Toddlers & Tiaras' and God help me: 'Real Housewives of ___"
(who are ANYthing but housewives)...in my experience watching these shows, inevitably one or two things occur everytime a show airs: someone on the show belittles/judges/bullies another show participant ....OR the viewer sits there in judgement of the show participants.
In the first instance, our children/tweens who are watching this behavior are being fed what message? If you act like a jerk, you will be looked at as interesting or may even become a TV star for your jerk-dom? That being ruthless, underhanded and two-faced are personality traits to be revered?
And when we sit there and 'call out' the people with clearly no talent and look foolish on shows like American Idol, are we inadvertently teaching our children to be judgemental and cruel? When we mock those pillars of morality and decorum from 'Jersey Shore', are we not contradicting ourselves: 'don't behave like that' but when other young people do it's entertainment?
While I kind of like Gordon Ramsey and understand what he is attempting to accomplish, the man is abusive and earns huge ratings for his bullying behavior. A young person who watches, may think they too deserve to be crapped on if they are slow to learn something in school.
We, as parents, take great pains to shape and influence the character of our children...but I have to ask: have we been oblivious to the subtle damage our own behavior is having on their development of what it is to be kind, gracious and accomodating of all the different people they will encounter as they move through life.
Do you think the combination of reality programming and our behavior as viewers can be worsening the bullying we are seeing in our children?
-Nicolle